For those of you who don’t speak Spanish “Papi Chulo” roughly translated means, “Hot butch” which our Papi Chulo definitely IS.
Now don’t get this confused with Cholo which – in polite terms – means gangster. Papi Chulo is no gangster! She’s all about art and music. She loves an art exhibit, live music (jazz and blues being particular favorites) and creating art. Papi Chulo is a painter. She says she’d paint full time if it would keep her fed.
Papi Chulo is sweet and funny and larger than life. You’re gonna want to see her! Get your tickets to Butchlesque today! Buy your tickets now! Cowboy and I will be there and we’d love to meet you! If you DO go be sure to find us and say hello! You won’t be able to miss us as Cowboy is 6’2 so she is very spottable!
When asked “Are you a lover or a fighter?” The Aviator had a FABULOUS answer. “Definitely a lover and love is worth the fight.”
The Aviator says that being an x-ray tech, her best work is done in the dark. She isn’t just a funny butch, though. Aviator also started a foundation whose mission is to help people with ALS stay in their homes. She is not only funny and works to help others, she’s an artist. She once wanted to be a Disney artist but things didn’t work out that way for her. She keeps her artistic eye in tune as an amateur photographer.
Don’t you want to join the butches and femmes from all over the country coming to see Butchlesque? Get your tickets to Butchlesque today! Buy your tickets now! Cowboy and I will be there and we’d love to meet you! (I’m leaving the Hooligans at home, though!)
Thanksgiving is a weird holiday for me. It’s both my favorite holiday and I’m native American.
When one of my exes and I lived on the reservation, we heard a lot of talk about how Thanksgiving was the beginnings of genocide and colonialism. The first Thanksgiving was nothing more than a harvest festival shared by natives and the colonists. They each introduced new ideas to the other, which is always a Good Thing. Europeans do not have a corner on the market for harvest festivals. Cultures around the globe have thanked God for their bountiful harvests for as long as people have worshiped a deity.
Thanksgiving didn’t become a regular occurrence until about 1660 and it didn’t become a national holiday until 1863. Before then, it was celebrated at various times. There isn’t even consensus on WHEN the first Thanksgiving actually was. Some say it wasn’t the one in Massachusetts but one held earlier by the Spanish.
If we want to rail against the beginnings of genocide, we should choose a different date. Columbus Day seems like a good choice to me. It was Columbus’ introduction of Europeans to America that started the whole thing.
I believe colonization was inevitable. Natives weren’t all the warring people you see on television. Sure, some nations were violent. Many were not. None of them had the weapons the Europeans had or the number of men. The nations weren’t all a united front any more than Europe is a united front. People say they were savages but all they really were was Not Christian. To anyone who wants to say things like “Well, but they scalped people!” I say, “and the French beheaded people. Have you heard of the Spanish Inquisition? The Crusades?” All savage practices.
Thanksgiving isn’t about colonialism or genocide. It’s about being thankful for the blessings we have received throughout the year. It’s about being grateful for all the we have been given, that we have earned, that we have received. As a country, I believe Americans are short on gratitude. We are so focused on what we don’t have that we forget what we DO have.
Like many of you, I forget to be grateful on a daily basis. I remember more often than once a year, but I love the idea of a holiday that focuses on gratitude, on family and on food. I love the holiday whether I spend it with Cowboy’s family, my family of origin, with friends or by ourselves. I spend the day thinking about all the things for which I have to be grateful.
I am so grateful for my sweet Cowboy. I had no idea that relationships like ours existed in real life. I thought this was just something a person read about in romance novels but it’s real.
I’m also grateful for every last one of my exes. No matter what happened between us, those relationships taught me something about myself that helped make this one possible. I am not the person with Cowboy as I was with any of the my exes but it is thanks to those experiences that I AM the partner I am today.
I’m grateful for the experience of packing up and moving 1300 miles away. It was so hard to leave my family and, a year and a few months later, it’s still hard not to have my niece or nephew be able to drop by after school or to go have dinner with my sister. At the same time, it’s freeing to be in a new place where no one has any preconceived ideas about who you are. Who you are is the person they are meeting now, not the one you used to be 20 years ago but no one who knew That Person can forget.
I’m thankful for my friends. I have some wonderful people in my life and you make it so much better. I’ll be eternally thankful to my high school best friend who showed me what it really means to be a friend. I’m thankful for my friend Mel who, even though we only talk about once a year, is always loving and forthright. That’s a hard combination, right there. I’m thankful for my new friend HippieGrrl who has welcomed me into her life so readily.
I’m thankful for all of you who read this. I love my commenters (because y’all know I am always begging people to Just Comment HERE Already) but I ALSO love it when I meet one of you and you mention things that you’ve read.
Now that I’m done being emotional, I should also say I’m grateful for Waggin’ Tails Grooming because they keep the Hooligans from looking like nobody loves them. I’m thankful for dinner dates with Cowboy and dinner plans with friends, I’m thankful for all of our Sunday morning going-out-to-breakfasts and I’m thankful for online calorie counter websites to help me keep track of what I’m eating so I don’t totally go berserk.
I have a lot to be thankful for, pumpkins. Don’t you? What are YOU thankful for? Leave me a comment and let me know!
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Some of you may have read Butch Sexology
and wondered about the butch who wrote it. Now is your chance to find out, pumpkins! Butch lesbian erotica writer Jesse MacGregor-Jones will be on Butchlesque’s stage this year.
Now, anyone who has read Jesse’s books might think they know Jesse but she has another side. Jesse is not only an author but a working ranch hand who rides horses and herds cattle. She’s a “what you see is what you get” sort of butch … which means don’t ask what she thinks if you don’t want a truthful answer.
Jesse hasn’t found Ms. Right yet. When asked about her perfect wedding, Jesse said, I’ve always wanted an Irish wedding because of my ancestry and I want to visit Ireland, Scotland and the UK for a vacation/honeymoon someday. So all you Irish-lovin’ femmes out there … you might want to come to the show!
Do you want to see the butch behind the words? Get your tickets to Butchlesque today! People are coming from all over the country: California, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Texas, Michigan, Pennsylvania, Washington, DC, everywhere! You should join us. Cowboy and I will be there and we’d love to meet you. Buy tickets now!
When the Butchlesque producer asked the contestants what they wanted people to know about them, Dr. Debonair said, “I am enjoying the best time of my life… knowing exactly who I am!” Don’t you love that? Nothing is sexier than a butch who knows exactly who she is and embraces it!
That’s not all that’s sexy about Dr. Debonair! She has a definite Bad Boi edge but she’s all gentlebutch. I have heard from someone who knows that Dr. D is not just smooth and suave, but kind and gentle and – let’s not forget – HOT!
Do you want to see Dr. Debonair strut her stuff on the catwalk? Get your tickets to Butchlesque today! People are coming from all over the country: California, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Texas, Michigan, Pennsylvania, Washington, DC, everywhere! You should join us. Cowboy and I will be there and we’d love to meet you. Buy tickets now!
There’s more than a handsome face that goes into making a butch swoon-worthy. You can be the best-looking person in creation but if you’re not anything but that … you’re boring.
Jason, my sister-femmes, is not boring!
Jason is sweet and funny. Jason is one of those “glass half full” sorta butches who always sees the good side of things. I happen to have met Jason a few times and I’ll tell you that I laughed A LOT. Not that Jason was telling jokes necessarily but just comes up with the funniest way of looking at life.
For all you single femmes, Jason is single, too! But don’t count on Lesbian U-Haul Syndrome with Jason. Jason definitely prefers to take time to get to know someone before making THAT particular leap. Jason also values honesty in relationships.
When asked about the perfect first date, Jason says, “I’d want to go out for dinner and talk and talk. I’d want us to learn things about each other. There would be a slight kiss and a good night hug, but it’s about the talking for me. If you don’t talk, you won’t know if you’ll get along or not! If you’re quiet, I’m probably not the one for you!”
Do you want to meet Jason? Get your tickets to Butchlesque today! People are coming from all over the country: California, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Texas, Michigan, Pennsylvania, Washington, DC, everywhere! You should join us. Cowboy and I will be there and we’d love to meet you. Buy tickets now!
I got my 2nd Birchbox in the mail! I’m pretty thrilled with Birchbox. Can you tell?
I loved the face wash in last month’s so much I gave up the washing with oil – and I had been doing that for A WHILE – and bought the full size version. I love it!
This month I got:
tea. Birchbox does “life style” samples and why they gave me tea, I don’t know. I don’t drink tea but Cowboy does sometimes, so those are now in the Tea Tupperware waiting for someone to want tea.
Laura Mercier lipgloss. This is a pretty nude and I’ve worn it a couple of times. It doesn’t last that long but no lip gloss really does.
Vasanti Brighten Up Enzymatic Face Rjuvenator. Okay, the name is ridiculous but I guess it’s supposed to make you look younger or something. We’ll see.
Eyeko Black Magic Mascara. I was hoping for mascara sample because mascara is crazy expensive and even if I wear it every day, which I don’t because I’m a Beauty Slacker, I wouldn’t use up a whole tube in the 90 days mascara is supposedly safe once opened. This little package is a great size! It’s nice enough but I have long lashes, what I need is thickener and this doesn’t do that. Still, smells nice, goes on well and doesn’t clump. No one needs Tammy Faye Baker lashes. I probably won’t buy this one but this brand has a thickening mascara and I might try that one, if I don’t get another mascara sample in the next couple of months.
Tiossan Body Cream. I’m surprisingly not a big fan of scented body creams. I use coconut oil when I need to lotion up – which other than my face, feet and hands isn’t that much. My skin stays soft and smooth on its own. I liked this, though, cause it’s called “Femme.” However it smells more like Little Old Lady than Hot Sexy Femme. Can’t win ‘em all!
Do you want to get your OWN birchbox? I think you should! It’s $10 a month and if you like to try out new things, this is a cost-effective way to do it! Click this link to go get your own! (Full disclosure: if you sign up using that link, I get 50 Birchbox points to use towards buying products. I think that 50 points = about $5.)