I wish I could remember where I first read about this lip color but I can’t. I ended up pinning it on Pinterest so that I might remember to go buy it. I don’t even remember what made me think I needed it So Badly but I looked for it all over the place until finally I broke down and went to Target.
So on the plus side:
On the negative side:
What’s your favorite lipstick? Be specific! I wanna know brand, style and color. (ie Revlon, Colorburst in Pink Truffle.) Leave me a comment, pumpkins, and let me know.
I came out 26 years ago. I’ve said that before, so I’m dating myself. Over the years, people have said ugly things to and about women like me. You’ve probably heard or read similar things yourself. You may have even said some of them yourself.
What kind of things?
I do not understand why you like women who look like men.
I don’t know why you have to dress like that. (to the butches)
How can you expect straight people to give us our civil rights if you keep going around looking/acting like that?
Don’t you know you’re hurting the Gay Rights Movement by not being more “normal”?
How can you do this to us? You make people uncomfortable.
I (usually) refrain from telling people to fuck off but I’ll tell you, it’s hard. Especially when the person I’m hearing this stuff from is supposed to be a friend. But cussing people out isn’t helpful and it doesn’t get anyone anywhere.
Yesterday, I sort of lost my temper – on Facebook of all places – about this very thing. I get tired of people feeling that they have the right to judge me and lecture me. Not just me, but any of us. I tend to stand up for us, even if the comment or judgement wasn’t directed at me personally. Not everyone appreciates it. If I’m honest, I’d say most people don’t. They think I should just shut up and keep the peace and not ruffle any feathers.
I can’t do that.
The thing is, behind anger, frequently is another emotion. Not always. Sometimes anger is just anger but sometimes … it’s hurt. It’s hurtful for My People to dismiss me, to act like I don’t belong in their world, to judge me, to expect that in order for me to be a Good Lesbian, I have to be one on their terms.
I can’t do that, either.
So when you see someone go off on a rant, before you dismiss them as irrational or “too sensitive” or whatever, ask yourself if you were respectful in your interaction with them. Ask yourself if you were judgmental. Truly ask yourself – and think about it. Because if you said anything about labels, you probably weren’t respectful. If you used any euphemism for label, you were not respectful. Saying something like “no disrespect intended” means you know full well that you are being disrespectful.
It’s bad enough that the heterosexual majority acts like this to us. It’s shameful that we do it to others who don’t live life as WE think they should. One of the best parts of being a lesbian is that there is no one right way to do it. You do it your way and I’ll do it mine.
So, pumpkins, let’s be kinder to one another, okay?
We had friends come to visit our city for New Year’s Eve. We all got tattoos! The 4 butches got a blue star on their left wrist and 3 of the 4 femmes got the tattoo like mine. The other two femmes who got tattoos also got words: one got “exhale” and one got “pray.” I opted against the word. Mostly because OUCH. They say tattoos are addictive but … I’m pretty certain that is my first and last tattoo. I really like it but I don’t need another one.
Here are the femmes:
and here are the butches:
Why blue stars, you ask? Back in the day, when it wasn’t safe to be out, butches would get a blue star on their wrist in a place where it could be covered, if they needed it. It was an early rainbow symbol or pink triangle. I haven’t found anything that said that femmes wore them (anyone out there know something about this?) so my friends and I decided to get smaller stars and a cluster of them. We chose five randomly, which works out given my obsession with all things that are divisible by five.
Do you have tattoos? Tell me about them!
When asked what she wanted y’all to know about herself, Ryder said, “I have a great sense of humor and wit, I will jump upon a soap box and express my opinion even when it may not be the most popular. I am very spiritual and though I do single well, I like to believe I also do partnerships well also. I am very romantic, and love love to dance. It is nothing to see me twirling my girl in the kitchen through out the house, or even pulling off to the side of the road to take my lady in my arms to dance to our song when played on the radio.” It sounds like Ryder has a romantic side!
Wanna dance with Ryder? Buy your tickets for New Year’s Eve today!
As you’ll guess from the picture, Stevie-Aaron is musically inclined. Not just the guitar – Stevie-Aaron has also played the French horn.
When asked what she would like you to know about her, Stevie-Aaron says, “I am very grounded, dependable, and trustworthy. I expect the same from friends and others. I have been away from the dating scene for 5 years pretty much – only a handful of brief dates here and there. I am twice-bitten and thrice-shy. I’m waiting for my princess to catch my eye and my heart!” Stevie-Aaron is looking for someone who not only wants to be doted on but to cater to her as well.
So my femme friends, you’re going to want to be sure to come to Butchlesque and meet Stevie-Aaron! Buy your tickets for New Year’s Eve today. Make sure you stop by and say hello to me! I’d love to meet you.
Jakob is a Renaissance Butch! She’s highly creative … she was a chef for many years, she once gave up a full ride scholarship to Berklee School of Music and she’s an artist. She is a photographer who, she says, “is never far from my set up, and am always willing to ‘shoot’ damn near anything.” I’ve seen some of her photography and she truly is talented.
Jakob is one of the married butches in Butchlesque. She and her wife married in Paris, at the top of the Eiffel Tower, in 2001. They’ve been together 16 years now. They share their lives with two dachshunds and, yes, they recognize the irony of lesbians with “weinie” dogs.
You’re not going to want to miss Jakob! Get your tickets to Butchlesque today! Buy your tickets now! Make sure you stop by and introduce yourself to me!